Why oh why do pictures taken on my iPhone always end up sideways on Tumblr??
highly aggravating.
It took me six days to finish the four books in the Twilight saga. I didn’t go out, I barely slept. I went to work, came home and read until my eyes denied my efforts to stay awake. Instantly I feel in love with the concept of Edward and Bella. An immortal falling in love with a mortal and vice versa.
Stephenie Meyer recreated the image of vampires to the young generation. And I was thrilled to see it come alive (so to speak) on the big screen.
My first reaction was ultimate thrill. I got to see the Edward Cullen, the most beautiful being in existence judging from the book, in real life.
From the beginning of the movie, I already knew that the books were always going to be better than the movie. Movies can not grasp what the imagination can create perfectly. We all have our own conceptions of how it should look so naturally there will always be disappointment.
I must say that the movie was decent. It had the main points of the book and it cut away what was not most important to the main plot. The acting was adequate but there is most definitely room for improvement.
I want to link to the Harry Potter films. The first movie, Harry Potter and the Sorcerer’s Stone, was the weakest in acting out of all the movies thus far. But as the saga continued, the Harry Potter actors and actresses grew more accustomed to their roles, therefor improving the movie. I think the same will happen to Breaking Dawn, the next movie in the vampire saga.
I left the theatre with a smile. I got to see an extremely hot Edward (his family was not half bad either). I got to see a new age of vampire and a new slew of actors and actresses make their debuts on the screen.
I can’t wait to see the next movie and how the acting and screen directing improves.
For more information concerning Twilight the movie, books or Stephenie Meyer, visit her website at www.stepheniemeyer.com
I thought I had a blog but then the idea vanished from me.
Doesn’t everyone hate that?
Throughout the day these amazing ideas or just thoughts trail across your mind and you think to yourself “holy shit that is an amazing epiphany” but then you realize, you have no way of recording it and it just escapes you. It sucks.
Perhaps if I sleep on it, it will come to me.
Oh. Ps. I was asked to be someone’s boyfriend tonight, we have only gone on one date. I of course said that I would like to get to know him better before we go to that level, but still. The proposal was amazing none-the-less.
There are very few days out of the year that have a constant theme to them. The exceptions for my family are as follows: Christmas, Easter and Thanksgiving. All of these have one thing in common. Meat meat and more bloody meat. Well actually not literally bloody, but the point stands.
Six years go I was part of the meat-eating, turkey loving gravy basting entourage. But now I am part of the tofu loving, rabbit style eating gang. And it has put a serious dent in the traditional Thanksgiving scene.
My father called me the other day and asked “So, you still don’t eat meat?” Of course I don’t. “Ya your sister still doesnt either” ( I converted her to the green side about three years ago)
So now my family has the task of not only preparing the huge turkey they get every season, but also preparing a montage of vegetarian friendly food. And I am starting to feel bad.
It was easier to tell them I was gay than to tell them I was vegetarian.
The story of coming out of the closet differs from each homosexual. Some have tales of parents who did not care, some had stories of parents who might have already known and then there are some tragic accounts of parents being so un-accepting that they have kicked their child out of the house.
Despite the tremendous steps in social equality for the GLBTQ community, it is still a very rough time for those still in the closet to find the courage to become honest with themselves and their loved ones. With the passing of Proposition 8 and the banning of gay marriage in three other states, it is not difficult to see why children and parents alike are afraid of what might happen.
“Homosexual children, even closeted ones, have numerous sources and friends they can talk to about how to come out to their parents,” said Branden Berkey director for the Center on Halsted;s Sexual Orientation and Gender Institute. “Parents on the other hand are much less prone to seek out how to react to the news that their child is gay. Naturally they might react in fear or hatred resulting in the child becoming ashamed of who they are. Parents need to know how to react or at least what to do when and if this happens.”
Chances are the child knows how to talk to their parents about being gay. Chances are their friends are already in the know and have given them advice. But the parent is most likely out of the circle, unaware of what is coming—so how should a parent react and how should they deal with the knowledge that their child is part of the GLBTQ community?
Let them come to you
According to Berkey, parents who confronted their child about the possibility of being gay resulted in a much harsher environment than the parent most likely intended. The son or daughter was most likely unprepared to come out to the parent and immediately they would go on the defensive, denying who they are which would in the end creates more psychological turmoil than intended. In this case, the parent does not know what is best for the kid, only the son or daughter knows when they are ready, don’t force it.
Remain calm after the son or daughter comes out of the closet to you
Steve Ralls of Parents, Family and Friends of Lesbians and Gays (PFLAG) says that the only way to avoid conflict and further possible pain on both sides is for the parent to remain calm. “Step into your child’s shoes. He or she is telling you a secret that will alter their future for good. Technically there is nothing you can do to alter their orientation and the world is already against our community. Why make them feel worse? They are most likely in a state of confusion and they are telling you because your son or daughter love you and need your guidance at this time. Don’t take that away from them.”
Remember who they are
Berkey says that the biggest mistake parents can make during the coming out period is forgetting that it is still their teenager they are talking to. Being gay or lesbian does not define who they are despite society’s view on the GLBTQ community just like being heterosexual does not define who you are and what you do in your life.
If you accept them, let them know you still love them and want to support them.
Many parents immediately accept the fact that their child is gay or lesbian. In that case, the parent should immediately inform the son or daughter that they still love them regardless of sexual orientation. This above all with make the child feel accepted and will give them the ability to cope with the outside world, said Ralls. Once you and the teenager have talked about the implication of being homosexual, there are going to be questions that neither the child nor adult will know how to answer. In that case it is time to seek information from outside sources such as organizations similar to PFLAG or PFLAG itself. There is vast information there that makes the transition from being closeted to being open a lot smoother.
If you do not accept your child, remain calm and explain the situation and other options.
“I hate when it happens but it does happen. The parent does not accept the sexual orientation of their son or daughter and they overreact,” Berkey said. “When that happens walls go up on both sides and nothing is going to get accomplished. In the case of the parent, we tell them that they should inform their child that despite their un-accepting of the lifestyle, they still love them and will seek out information regarding the lifestyle choice. It is the best way to avoid the conflicts that can result in the child hating the parent.
It takes a lot of courage and strength to come out of the closet to one’s parents. The fear of rejection and being hated can prevent a closeted teen from accepting themselves and from telling those who need to know. The Center on Halsted hopes that through information and understanding, all parents will be accepting of their child’s choice.
